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Our Ceremony – The Saga (part I) August 3, 2008

Maybe I’m being a tad overdramatic with this title, but if the research I’ve done so far is any indication, writing our own ceremony entirely from scratch is going to be quite the undertaking. Not that I’m having second thoughts. And not that I mind the time commitment, because for us it was an easy decision to create our own ceremony, being the non-religious, informal, and slightly quirky people that we are.

I have plenty of vague ideas, and we’ve had several in depth talks about what we want the overall feeling of the ceremony to be, and what elements we’d like to include. In no particular order:

1) Possibly some traditions from other cultures, like the Apache wedding blessing (which I love).

2) Interesting readings. I like the idea of Drew and I each picking one, knowing that I’ll probably use something from literature, and he’ll probably choose a quote from philosophy.

3) Personal vows. This isn’t groundbreaking by any means, but Drew and I both agree that we’ll forgo memorizing anything, because neither of us have will have the presence of mind to do anything other than repeat back to the judge when the day is (finally!) here.

4) Some creative way of thanking our family and friends.

5) And the whole shebang in our opinion shouldn’t last longer than about twenty minutes.

So obviously, translating our hodgepodge of ideas into some sort of format that flows is a slightly daunting task, even if it is one I’m very excited about. Has anyone else written their own ceremony? What ideas and/or sources did you use?


7 Responses to “Our Ceremony – The Saga (part I)”

  1. Linda Says:

    We wrote our own ceremony. We used The Wedding Ceremony Planner. It was a wonderful resource. Our entire ceremony is posted on my website.

  2. Liz Says:

    We also wrote our own ceremony and used The Wedding Ceremony Planner by Judith Johnson. We met with a handful of officiants before deciding on having a friend officiate and mots of the officiants’ material was clearly pulled from the Judith Johnson book. The most difficult part for us was finding readings that we both liked and that were nonreligious. Hopefully everyone likes the ceremony come December! Best of luck writing your own!

  3. Mrs Lovebug on weddingbee wrote their own ceremony and had a really unique aspect of a Wine and Chocolate ceremony that talked about live and love being bitter and sweet. Its worth reading. (And if I remember right she got the idea from her officiant… so maybe start by asking if your officiant has any ideas.)

  4. Dana LaRue Says:

    Yeah, I’d say Weddingbee is a great resource – definitely Mrs. Lovebug was amazing. But also Mrs. Onion and a few others have nice bits.

    Also, sometimes Knottie bios include the text of their ceremony. There’s nice stuff to find there!

    I’m doing the same thing – I’ll let you know if I find any winners!

  5. laragale Says:

    Thanks for the tips guys! How did people ever plan a wedding without the internet 😉

  6. boxingday Says:

    for ceremony writing there is not a greater resource than IndieBrides vows repository and accompanying threads. You have to sift through all of the entries but there is so much great stuff that the time is a great investment. IndieBride Kvetch is a priceless giude on most things wedding.

    here is the link to that thread.

    sorry i don’t know how to insert a prettier link

  7. Jackson Says:

    Thank you for sharing the information. I found the details extremely helpful.

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